I thought I was a submissive masochist, but now I'm starting to think that I might only be a masochist, because I can't understand some of these attitudes about dominance and submissiveness at all. Isn't that one of the purposes of a safeword - to signal that an activity is no longer good for you? Can anyone give an example of such a reason? Also, I don't see why calling a safeword because 'you’d simply rather be doing something else' is frivolous. I genuinely can't think of a single unethical reason to call a safeword.

Safewords exist to protect you from serious damage. 'Also, when being submissive, don’t use your safeword to “top from below.” It’s not enough that you’d simply rather be doing something else. 'The submissive must never call a safeword, especially “red,” for frivolous or unethical reasons.' There are also two quotes from the section on safewords that I feel uneasy about: Shouldn't both participants be there to please, and be pleased by, each other? I understand that, for most submissives, getting to please their dominant is intrinsically pleasurable, but they have their own needs and wants too. A portion of your purchase of this book will be donated to non-profit organizations. The submissive is there to please the dominant.' Has moderate shelf wear, highlighting, underlining and/or writing. A great beginner book that answers all your questions. 'The dominant is not there to please the submissive. giving and receiving pain, role playing, negotiating limits and needs. Here's a quote from the chapter 'Dominant/Submissive Interactions' that illustrates what I mean: I found the vast majority of the book to be excellent, but a few sections rubbed me the wrong way, so I would like to ask if certain attitudes in it are common. no one uses phone books anymore), but most of the content seems timeless.

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